Difference between "Skimpy" and "Figure Flattering"

        Ok girls, there is nothing wrong with wanting to show your figure, but every inch of it does not need to be emphasized in order to prove that it is there.  Girls are made with an obviously curvy body, and there is a very fine line between figure flattering and skimpy.
       As women, we want to be feminine, to do this there are some very simple additions we can make to an outfit that accomplishes that goal without showing our every curve... (0=
          

     A Belt ~   This is the best thing that I can recommend to show your figure while being modest. I have a gazillion of them!  They are a very simple and stylish addition that will accentuate your feminine waist. They are also a great way to change up your wardrobe a bit.

 High shouldered tops ~  Although out of some of our comfort zones,  puffs on the end of your shoulders or thin shoulder pads will give you a sort of chic feminine confidence.      

 ~ Below or mid-waist flare ~   
This is a very bold way of saying, 
"I AM A WOMAN"

... Plain. Simple.  

  
  
  ~waist high skirts~  

I wear this this type of skirt most of the time. 

Waist high skirts accomplish femininity, and modesty in a very figure flattering way.

                                                                                                           

Some times you don't need to accentuate your figure at all. If  you are confident, a bright colored shift dress, like this one, will do just fine.... Just keep your shoulders back and smile. 

I do not want anyone to read this and turn it around.  

The only reason we need to show our figure is to make it clear to the world that we are women and we are proud of it.   If you don't feel a need to show your figure in order to feel feminine, I will encourage you not to.

<3

~Gracie~

What are the Boundaries of Modesty?

    DO YOU REALLY WANT TO KNOW???  Before you read this, please stop and think... Do you really want to be modest?  If so you will be open to every suggestion I make . If you want God to give you His favor you need to put a little effort in yourself.
       If you start early it isn't hard at all. If you are in your teens or older, like I was, it will be a tad bit harder, as you will need to purchase a few mandatory garments, and will more than likely find some things in your closet to be thrown away.
       I am a girl so I cannot instinctively tell you what is considered modest. But I do have a very outspoken big brother, and I have researched a great deal in the matter. The things I will say are straight from the mouths of boys... I don't make assumptions.
                
     After much evaluation I have tried to bring it down to this simple guideline.   (0=
   
     Once I explain modesty, I will show you different ways to follow through with your new conviction in a few separate posts, so please don't be discouraged with the extent of what modesty is. Just stay-tuned....   (0=
     
               

MODESTY BOUNDARIES:

     Upper half:             

•   NO CLEAVAGE!!! One thing that is very easily lost in translation, is the "coverage of the bust"... How low is to low?   Your top should not fall more than 4 closed fingers from the bottom of your collar bone. (larger busted women will need it a bit higher)
  

  
•   Shoulders should be completely covered. Yes girls, that means NO tank tops. Your sleeves must reach the end of your shoulders at the least. Cap sleeves are preferable.
  
  
•   The size of your shirt does matter. Do not be fooled by the notion of "as long as there is no skin it is modest". Not true. Think of it this way, when a gift has a very distinctive shape we always wrap it in a way that the receiver of the gift can't tell what it is until they open it. You should Cover your body as if you are wrapping a gift  for the one and only man who is willing to commit his life to you. A good way to make sure of this is to do the belly button check... (0=  If  you can see the concave of your belly button then the shirt is too tight. Now, sometimes you will find a shirt that no matter how loose it is, it will still show your belly button. In this case you need to wear a tank top underneath. 

•   We should also be careful of  the attention the shirt brings to your bust. I cannot give you a clear rule about this, but I will say that for the sake of the guys,we need to try to draw the least attention to our bust as possible.

Lower half:

•   To be truly modest, the legs need to be covered to the bottom of the knee cap. When I wear loose-fitting skirts, sometimes they will come to the top of my knees. Thick leggings/tights do change the rule by about an inch.  But remember, we are wrapping a gift.  (0= 

• You're pants need to be loose enough on your behind that they do not show.........your butt.  Pants are another thing "lost in translation".  I personally would much rather live in the time when all women wore dresses...  ):  Unfortunately, one woman decided that she wanted men and women to be treated the same, in turn she dressed the same as men, and she changed the world.    Google it.

      Even so I have decided that I will wear skirts, 
or very loose-fitting pants/capris for the rest of my life. This is less a modesty thing but more a Bible thing. God wrote in the Bible that "men shall not wear women's clothes and women
 shall not wear men's clothes."  I realize that this verse may only be speaking against cross-dressing, but it made me realize how closely men and women do dress.
 Therefore, I am going to be as feminine
 as I possibly can, even if that means wearing skirts in the winter...  (0=  


I used to wear pants that were thick enough that they didn't look saggy when they were loose, they still held there shape and didn't make me feel frumpy. If you really think hard, you will realize how much you are sharing with the world when you wear tight jeans. I personally will not do it.   

• When I do wear skinny jeans that show my figure, I make sure to where a dress-like shirt that covers my butt well, over top.                         

                            

• I wear high-heels all the time. I have been told two things, one is that 3 inches or more is too high and draws too much attention to our legs, and two is that high-heels make no difference at all. I have drawn the conclusion that not all boys have the same thought process. Also, the way you walk has a very large impact. The rule I have made for myself is that any shoes that are higher than 3 inches cannot be stilettos, unless they are worn with pants. And I try to keep my hips as straight as possible when walking in them. 

These are a really cute alternative to stelettos.

These are a great neutral pair of shoes that will go well
with quite a few outfits in your closet.

    I love these, if at all possible a splash of
 color will bring style to most outfits.

         

•  One last thing... If you have to bend the rule, it is immodest.The smallest bit of skin can make a boy stumble. Can the men out there just say "this is to hard" and give up on keeping his mind pure? Think of how hard it is to be a boy in this world and make a decision. Is it worth it? wearing that small skirt? Is it worth one boys purity?   

The next time you have to pull your dress really hard to get it to barely reach your knees, think of your brothers...They need our help.


I pray my words are taken into consideration.

  

                                                                        ~GRACE~
         

  


      
     

Cute Striped Dress

Proof that striped patterns are not our enemy...   Big bags are in!!!!    I LOO these shoes.   (0=
And from experience, dresses like these will almost always need a slip... ) =